Wednesday, June 22, 2011
Week 4 Day 3
A lot of people think, that when I counsel people, I just sit and offer up advice and solutions to various problems. More specifically...that I fix those problems.
My job, and it's much harder than fixing some one's problem, is to get the other person to realize that their solutions are not working. It's often a source of amazement for me to have a person desperately seeking my advice spend a whole session telling me why they are going to continue doing the things that got them into their unhappy situation in the first place. I often end up asking them the famous Dr. Phil question..."so, how's that working for you?". It's considered a major breakthrough when a person can come to the conclusion that "it's not working very well at all" and open themselves up to trying something different.
I'm no different. My very good friend, Boyd , made some observations and comments concerning my diet that I had been listing for a few days. Good, sound advice and given with his sincere desire to help me attain the goals I wanted.
But what did I do with all that great advice?
I argued. I rationalized. I read every comment he made with a "but, but, but" going through my mind to explain why I was doing what I was doing and why it was the right thing to do. Even while complaining that what I was doing wasn't working.
Geeze....how embarrassing. Time to take some of that advice which I make a living out of giving to others.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result. Sanity is the knowledge that if you want something different in your life, you have to do something different in your life.